Welcome to Semalt Service,
Account Status: Unautorized
Login or Register
What is Semalt
Stop guessing what′s working and start seeing it for yourself.
Start SEO for $0.99
Login or register
What is Semalt
Question Center →
Mindset discussion: How do you rate your own mindset/positivity levels on a day to day basis?
Jun 14, 2018
Mindset discussion:How do you rate your own mindset/positivity levels on a day to day basis? Have you done anything to improve it over the last year?0 = super bad, 10 = amazing
Mica just sent you a PM
I listened to the audiobook its awesome
For the most part, I have always been a "glass is half full" person. It takes a lot to bring me down, but when something does, I do a complete nose-dive... Something I learned in my mid 30's is that faked confidence is confidence in the eyes of others... So, while I may have had confidence/self-esteem issues, I didn't let them show. I projected a confidence that I did not feel and when I started doing that, my life changed. Because of my false confidence, others started SHOWING more confidence in me... It bootstrapped my "actual confidence" and I started to truly believe in myself. Now it's progressed into a major ego complex that I have to keep in check sometimes. I have complete confidence in my abilities to do whatever I need to do. I just have to keep my disdain for idiots in check... just smile... just smile and nod.
Keep bringing to the group all this cool advice, Dave! I'm taking notes :)
100% agree with Dave. I hate the term "fake it till you make it", but there is truth in that statement.
In the late 90's a friend of mine and I quit our jobs as computer techs for a huge computer company and opened a small computer store in a strip mall. I've been a freelancer off and on since I was 12, so I knew we'd do well. HE was petrified, he had never been self-employed. One rule I had was "whatever the customer wants, say YES. Whatever it is, we'll figure it out." For me that policy is still in effect today. Whatever the customer wants... logo design, TV commercial, coffee maker connected to their web site (yes, I did that)... I say YES and then figure out how to do it. If I can't actually do it myself, then I find someone who can and I subcontract out to them.
I definitely second that. You can always figure it out
Dave Navarro Jr. Saying yes is basically how Richard Branson built his success! Say yes and work it out works!
I personally believe I am around a 6, but my family think I am probably closer to 8-9. Unfortunately, I find it far too easy to get demotivated!
Amen to that... Or, for me, distracted. I have serious ADD issues and I find it difficult to stay on task.
2-5 mostly. Creeps up to the 8 range on occasion. I've lost a lot of confidence in myself in the last 6 years (due to bad decisions and the knock on effects) and the state of the world at large intrudes more often than I like. I've tried various courses and mindset exercises, but I'm not sure if they had much of an effect. Maybe I would have been worse! I just keep on keeping on, but I struggle with envy a fair bit. I don't begrudge anyone success and happiness, quite the reverse - but I wish the things I enjoy could directly be income generating (rather than having to bend it into teaching or the like), and that I was more inventive/entrepreneurial.
It sounds like you're being quite harsh on yourself Kirsty! I'm sure a lot of people look at your life and wished they were brave enough to do some of the things you do. Maybe one thing you could do would be to keep a daily journal of your "wins"? Every night I write down a few things I did good that day, and then a couple of things I'm grateful for. The more you look for good things, the more you see them, but you have to keep at it! It takes time to change your mindset.
You are spot on. I've always been hard on myself. (I managed to stop being hard on others about 15 years ago). I actually kept a daily "small wins" and gratitude notes series last year for a few months. I'm not sure I felt much different. Small wins don't feel like much to me! I've done plenty of adventurous things, maybe that's the trouble. LOL. I try to do too much and get overwhelmed, or never get finished. I'd love to concentrate on one thing (again) but when it doesn't work out (had that happen) I'm 2 or more steps back. Thanks for the recommendation, I'd still day it's a great idea.
Just as success takes years, so does a mindset shift! I'm pretty sure the rewards I'm reaping now, with my 8-9 mindset, is the compound effect of 10-15 years of working daily for a better mindset while still feeling horrible. It's not something that can be done quickly but I really believe it's the foundation of success, so it's super important to keep working at it even though you can't tell the difference day to day. If you like reading, give The compound effect a try. It's all about how super small daily steps/habits can change the trajectory of your whole life. Small steps everyday will get you to a whole different place in a couple of years, so they DO matter! And focusing on those small steps don't overwhelm you like those huuuge goals do :)
A few years ago I was probably around 2-3, but I started implementing some really great morning routines after reading a book called The miracle morning by Hal Elrod (highly recommend!) which has helped me transform my life in all areas. Starting the day in the right way creates positive momentum that pulls me through the rest of the day. I've achieved more these past years than ever before in my life, and am around 8-9 on the mindset scale!
I followed Miracle Morning for a while. Still do exercise nearly every morning. I never found it was so transformative for me, but I have too many diverse goals, so I'll say that one is on me.
The morning routine consist of meditation, visualization, affirmation, working out, reading and writing. For anyone who's wondering :)
Kirsty, for how long did you follow it?
I did a workshop recently which I found really really helped me and I've read almost every damn self help book under the sun. The difference was this workshop it really focused on the reasons behind the goals and imaging them as they're already done and what did you do to make them come true and what type of person did you have to become, what changes did you need to make.
Johanna Sahlberg But how do you overcome the situation of people that are not morning people? E.g. My day is much better when I wake up early and start doing stuff, the issue is getting up in the morning, so I am myself a paradox, but never got the optimal way of getting up in the morning, does the book also gives tips regarding that?
I did 6 months of something similar to that, Simon. Writing down yearly, quarterly, monthly goals as a story looking back as if you'd done it (and setting 3 aims/goals/tasks per day). With weekly review of your achievements (at least ten things). I certainly felt purposeful, but it took up a fair bit of time. Maybe I should have stuck it for longer, but when too many things didn't work out how the "future vision" story detailed, I got discouraged (instead of scaling back my goals) I want to find something that works for those of us who are not "plodders", who can work very intensely and hard for shorter periods interspersed with total rest. Project - based, I suppose.
Is it that your motivation and discipline were not strong enough?
Kirsty Pollock Yeah that sounds exhausting
I probably didn't explain too well. It was like that. 3 for the year, then break that down to 3 for the first quarter, then each month break that down to 3 for the month, then weekly break into 3 for the week, then daily 3. Doing them in order.
Simon, maybe. I've been very good at goal setting and achievement in my life, but perhaps not good enough at picking the goals. And I wrestle with enjoying the process - I'm focussed on the goals. I know that loving the process is the trick to life, but I've not yet got there (or even all that close).
Jorge, the book definitely gives tips. I can't recall what they are, because I'm a morning person. LOL.
Have you tried writing down at least 50 goals (at least 50) and then at the end breaking them up into how many years they'll take. Either 1 year, or 3 years or 5 years or 10 years. Just group them by those numbers. Then write the top 4 goals for the next year and then pick the one that's the must important and start breaking that goal down into specific actions and steps.
Is that from Michael Hyatt's Your best year ever? I liked his system and have implemented part of it in my goal setting routine, but honestly trying it all was a bit too overwhelming for me
Jorge Marques Sorry I can't see your post anywhere, I can only see that you tagged me?
Jorge Marques Now I see it! The book gives a lot of suggestions of how to get up in the morning and they also have a huge fb group with a lot of advice. I also do think everyone can retrain their body to be alert in the morning, it's all about habit in my opinion :) It does get easier with time! I lived in Spain and went to bed 3am most days a few years ago, woke up 10am. That was normal to me then. Now I go to sleep at 10pm and wake up 5-6am, and this feels just as normal now. I'm not even more tired in the mornings even though I wake up so much earlier.
Johanna Sahlberg That is exactly what I need, when I wake up early my levels of "well being" are much better and sense of fulfilment. Waking up late gives me a bit of "depression", the paradox I am living :D .I look more into day, to start fresh, I bought the book :), thanks for the suggestion.
Jorge Marques I totally agree with you, there's something magical about waking up early. It really sets a good tone for the rest of the day :) Good luck Jorge! Feel free to PM me if you're wondering about something or need some tips along the way!
Johanna Sahlberg Hi Johanna, thank you very much, I am already reading the book :), I will let you know how it goes.
7 on average
What has helped me the most is taking care of the essentials first. 7-8 hours of sleep, Working out everyday. Drinking lots of water. Eating healthy foods with lots of greens ( if it grows eat it). Meditation everyday 2X 30 minutes. Once those have been taken care of I started to look at my beliefs, values, things I was attached to like validation and approval from others. I started to look at my emotions and started to allow everything to come up and accept it instead of suppressing. I think all of this can fall into to place if you learn to UNCONDITIONALLY LOVE yourself. I am not talking about being complacent and not improving... But loving yourself if you make mistakes, fail... Being your own best friend and being on your side. Allowing yourself to be your authentic self. Looking in the mirror and loving not criticizing yourself. Stopping all self- criticism is so important. When I stopped beating myself up and started to treat myself with respect, love, care and compassion everything changed...
I absolutely need this and cannot seem to get there! Any hot hints?
Also improving myself to optimize instead of coming from a place of not being enough. I think people get stuck in the self improvement hamster wheel. Instead of realizing they are enough. Getting a new job or making more money is not going to make you love yourself more. Loving myself first and Than improving.
I would start with Louise hays book “you can heal your life”
Generally 8-10. Some of the key points to achieving happiness for me are: Eating healthy food, getting rid of the TV, becoming an atheist, becoming self-employed, reading and implementing "The Four Agreements", practicing gratitude — there is always *something* to be glad about.
11 on 1st of every month (payday) and then start the following way with the money goes away - 10 9 8 7 6 ...... :(
Was about a 5 a year ago, now I'm hovering at about 8-9. The only difference in my life is I started practicing Tai Chi, Qi gong, and occasionally read Taoism stuff.
Goodness is there a limit to the amount of 0 I can add in this block
Recently it's been like a 2 or 3. I dunno I'm just really negative.
Man it was tough for a loooong time I was around 1-2!! But since I adopted my first dog in August of 've been depression free!! That's the longest I've gone as an adult. So these days I'd say I stay pretty positive around bad day may dip to about 6
That’s amazing, Jay! Dogs are the best thing that happen to this world
I used to be extremely negative. Complete victim mindset, glass is half empty kid of guy. Over the last 2 or so years I've gotten much better. Read some amazing books, met some amazing people. I probably hover around a 7 or so right now. Once I'm able to quit the day job and focus on my business completely I'll be a solid 9!
Most of the time I hover around a 7 - probably mostly cause of the workload of business + FT + family. Weekends I'm a solid 8-9. When I close a deal, I'm an 11!!
6, in the last year I have made huge changes and taken it way up, from below 6. Bringing it to 10 this year asap, focusing on tuning my internal motivation.
I'd say I'm around a 5-6 on average. I get up to 8-9s sometimes, but also get down to about a 2. I spent a couple years at 0, so I'm happy with this. I've started doing yoga and meditation, which helps a lot when I'm consistent. My current client also helps, because they're constantly giving me positive feedback that I haven't ever had from work.
I'm around those numbers as well. I know what I'm capable off, but sometimes a pick me up is necessary
I used to be a 1 or so. In the last few months I've brought it up to about an 8/9. I managed this with the help of some books and practice. A couple great books to read: The Obstacle is the Way. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck.
Oh! Friend recommended me The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. I want to read it
Mica Giordano it's a great read
It's gonna be hard to find it in Argentina, and I don't own en ebook, so I hope someone can bring it to me when they travel
View more on these topics
Post a comment
Post Your Comment
Why Should You Buy SEO Services? What SEO Packages Are the Most Efficient?
Seo Marketing Agency - Hiring Seo Agency For Your Website
Buy High Quality Backlinks - Website Backlink Profile
Quality Link Building - How To Benefit From Off Page Optimization?
What is Semalt
Semalt Success stories
What is Explainer Video
Free video tool
Questions & Answers
+1 (941) 306 2111
Ivana Fedorova 32 b1,
© 2013 - %s, Semalt.com. All rights reserved
Terms of Service
PUBLIC OFFER AGREEMENT
Get free SEO Consultation